2011/09/07

This, the 10th Anniversary of Her 6th Birthday.

September 11 is my daughter's birthday. It is the tenth anniversary of her 6th birthday. She does not recall any media images, only that her mother could not stop crying. For a week. We had cake, but we put it off.

On her actual day of birth in 1995, we both almost died in a horrible horrible hospital. That obstetrics ward was closed down two months after her birth.

Two weeks before September 11 I had been diagnosed with high blood pressure at age 33. I had to take medication for the rest of my life and was bummed. After watching people hold hands as they jumped together to their deaths, and heroes fly planes into the ground rather than into buildings with people, I felt blessed that I had a problem that could be solved with a pill. And all my problems have had that perspective ever since.

Every September I celebrate my daughter's life, my own, and I ache for the families that lost so much at the same time. It isn't ironic at all. Sorting good and bad to their respective days diminishes them both. Tragedy makes birthdays important. Birthdays help us live with tragedies. September 11 is a beautiful birthday totally appropriate for a big hearted, loving human being like Sophie Mancini who cares about justice and kindness . I wouldn't change her birthday if I could.

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